If you watch a few EFT demonstrations by non-NLPers, you will no doubt be aware already that EFT works even when the facilitator doesn't possess any languaging skills at all. However, when the facilitator does, the quantum leap in accuracy, smoothness and effectiveness of the treatment becomes obvious even to untrained observers. This works in two ways:
• Firstly, languaging skills make it as easy as possible for the client to understand what is taking place, to be encouraged in a positive and supportive fashion, to have the gains ratified and locked in there and then;
• Secondly, there is of course the ability of a well trained NLP practitioner to spot the language patterns that the client is using right away and to be able to find the "right words to say" so much more quickly and effortlessly.
Post hypnotic suggestions and embedded commands such as, "When we've done a round of tapping I will ask you how much better you feel and then we'll go on from there to completely overcome the problem.", as well as statements of pre-supposition such as, "And if it was an 8 before, what is it now?" all help to make the treatment faster and more elegant. Instant feedback on changes when the client is sighing, relaxing, or indicating that an energy shift has taken place by saying "Yes, that's right" or "Very good" or "You're doing really well" are most helpful to the client on many levels. General feedback along the lines of, "I'll ask you in a moment to give me a new SUDs rating, but before you do, I'd just like to tell you I can see you've got so much more colour in your face, you look much happier all around, and so much more relaxed - how are you feeling, now?" is also very useful in the context of having the client become aware of the changes that have occurred. In this way, even tiny little changes can become major stepping stones towards the client experiencing an EFT session as a transformational and wonderful experience indeed.
Lastly, using language to help bridge the gap in the client's mind between the "now state" (which is usually a state of slight disorientation, floating feeling following a successful EFT intervention) and the "before state" (which was a state of high emotional intensity and emotional pain) can make the whole experience far less frightening and disturbing to some clients.
Talking the other through this is a gentle way to help their neurological reordering processes along and avoid Apex related problems such as denying they ever had the problem, feeling frightened of the therapy or perceiving it as spooky or invasive. You can use phrases like, "Just sit here for a while, all safe and comfortable, and I know you're feeling a little disorientated right now and that's perfectly wonderful because it means it has worked, and your mind is sorting everything out now, so in a moment you'll be all clear and focussed again and delighted to discover that where the pain used to be, there is relaxation and peace and tranquillity instead." Keep on speaking and shifting your own state towards awareness until you're happy you have led the client safely out of the trance that ensues when a successful shift has taken place, and until they're fully back in the now. General Notes:
• Don't hurry the clients through those stages.
• Use your sensory acuity and your intuition to know when the client needs a little more time to process.
• You're not supposed to hypnotise them further at this stage, just keep a connection to the here-and-now and support their internal processes.
• If it takes an extraordinarily long time or you're getting worried, break state and give the client a glass of water.
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